***This post is dedicated to my friends I left behind in San Diego. You’ll always have a place in my heart.***
Its been quite awhile since my last post. I have been going through a big life transformation. After my trip to Italy and my reintroduction to European culture I knew I needed to be closer to home and closer to Europe. I have been missing the access to culture and history and I needed an immediate change so I went for it. As David Deida has taught me “Every moment waited is a moment wasted, and each wasted moment degrades you clarity of purpose.”
After living for 11 years in California it was time for a change. I am a different man than when I first arrived. My purpose, values, and passions shifted. When I got to California my priorities were health, weather, and exploration. My priorities have shifted to family, relationships, and contribution. My New England roots came out in full force and I feel grateful for it.
I don’t regret my decision to leave California, yet it was still an emotional departure and it is a good time to reflect. California was a rite of passage for me being 3000+ miles from home. I learned a tremendous amount and much of it has inspired me in starting this blog. I also met amazing people that have inspired, and continue to inspire my life. It was a wild ride and I’d love to share the top 7 things I learned from my 11 years in California. Enjoy.
The Top 7 Things I Learned While Living In California
1. Entrepreneurship– The first gift that California gave me was learning to be an entrepreneur and being exposed to entrepreneurial minds. Within a year of being there I had an idea for a healthy fast food franchise that I had been exposed to while in Boston during college. Through this idea my passion grew and through my passion I was exposed to some of San Diego’s most successful serial entrepreneurs. I am still friends with some of these people to this day and even though the idea never panned out, it instilled the confidence to explore my personal passions and that it was acceptable to veer from lives status quo.
2. Failure is ok– Along the same lines as being exposed to entrepreneurship, I was also exposed to my first BIG failure. I learned that most who desire self employment go through many levels of failure in their lives and that if they aren’t failing, they are most likely not taking enough chances. Failure is a normal and healthy progression.
3. Health living is absolutely ESSENTIAL– I came to California on 16 pills a day including prednisone for my Crohn’s Disease and I left San Diego on no medicine, feeling healthier than ever. I can attribute most of this from learning how to eat healthy and learning how your diet affects everything from your mood to your bodies inflammation level. Now I strive to be as healthy and chemical free as possible. I understand what ingredients are good for me and ones I should stay away from. California gave me the gift of healthy living.
4. How To Relax– Being high energy and highly caffeinated, I wasn’t one to relax or even sit still for that matter. This caused anxiety and depression which is a typical type A side affect. I expected WAY to much of myself and had very little balance. Luckily in being open minded to healthy living I learned how important it was to relax my body and my mind. I was exposed to the powers of meditation and continue to meditate every day. I learned about proper breathing to combat stress. I learned to allow myself to relax, do nothing, and just watch life go by. I feel like it has added years to my life and a peace of mind I had never had before.
5. Personal Development– This has been a HUGELY positive affect on my life. I was exposed to great books and thought leaders that have transformed the way I look at myself and the world around me. It has made me much more positive and much more excited for the future. I can attribute several books in helping me “wake up” from the haze I used to live in. These include: How To Win Friends and Influence People, Think and Grow Rich, Four Hour Work Week, A New Earth, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, Unlimited Power, and Create Your Own Future.
6. This world is SO AMAZING!– Yes, in living in California I was exposed to the beauties of the west coast of the United States. From climbing Mt Whitney and Half Dome, to seeing the pacific coast route 1, to snowboarding on the giant snow covered mountains of the west, I got to experience the best out door activities this country has to offer. I am truly blessed and grateful for having access to the great California beauty over the last 11 years.
7. Smile, laugh, be positive, and make friends everywhere you go- My social circle grew immensely in California and with it the quality of my interactions. Yes it is true, the sunshine and good weather puts people in great moods and it does directly have an affect on interactions. More people say hello, more people smile, and more people are nicer to each other. Just being exposed to this has made me realize how powerful it is to smile and be kind and the affect it has on making true connections. Sure the sun doesn’t come out as much in Boston and it is certainly not perfect weather like San Diego, but I refuse to stop smiling, laughing, and being positive and sharing it where ever I go. I know that if I do I will have a positive impact on those around me and will make friends where ever I go. Thanks Cally sunshine!