I am sitting here over looking the ocean trying to write my newest post. The irony of this whole situation is that I want to write a post on decisiveness and yet I am staring off at the ocean being indecisive about how I want to start my post. Some posts take me 30 minutes and others take me 3 hours. When I am more decisive I write quicker and my posts tend to flow better. So what does this have to do with anything and why is it such a game changer to be more decisive in your life?
Procrastination, which is the opposite of decision, is a major hurdle for all of us to overcome. All of us have to deal with procrastination in one form or another and much of the time it is regarding “something” we don’t want to do or make a decision about. This leads to that “something” hanging over us, causing stress and anxiety. It sucks and can render us useless.
The more you get in a habit of procrastination the more it takes a devastating toll on your life. We begin to associate pain with the activity we are procrastinating on. Whether you know it or not, you are creating a negative mental anchor toward being decisive. In worst-case scenarios, this negative mental anchor toward decision is handsomely compensating many psychiatrists. Lets get some real life evidence mixed in.
By now you all know I am a big Napoleon Hill fan. You may know that he studied over 25,000 men and women who had experienced significant failure. Lack of decision was one of the major causes. If that doesn’t scare you this next quote from Hill might.
“Successful individuals (everyone I reviewed) had the habit of reaching decisions promptly, and changing these decisions slowly. People, who fail to be successful, without exception, have the habit of reaching decisions very slowly, if at all, and of changing these decisions quickly and often.”
Think to yourself for a second. Ask yourself a few questions:
This may be eye opening for some of you. Are you stuck in a bad habit where you have trouble making decisions for yourself? Perhaps you have constant doubts about your decisions? I was there not too long ago.
The fact is I finally realized that my success and happiness were not only being affected by indecision but so were my stress levels and overall health. You may be feeling overwhelmed and indecision may be the root cause but you can change and adapt.
It’s time to own the fact that your success can be determined by your ability to make decisions. Make it a habit to make quicker decisions and put more weight on your decisions as opposed to other opinions about the decisions THEY THINK you should make.
Even go as far as to keep track of how many quick decisions you made on a daily or weekly basis. Make it a contest against yourself and make yourself proud of your ability to make decisions and to stick with them. Eventually you will be less apt to procrastinate and more likely to be more confident and assured of your overall direction. Don’t let your mind control you! Let loose and make some decisions that will shape your future and BE EXCITED ABOUT IT!
Here is a great workplace/career focused article on decision making- Mind Tools
This is a very deep article from Steve Pavlina on Overcoming Indecision