Do you feel like its difficult to meet new people? Do you desire to increase your social circle or get better at networking for business? I am about to show you a simple way to meet 5 new people tomorrow and 5 new people the next day, and everyday after that if you so desire. Its a fun little game that forces you to talk to and meet more people and its super easy.
Since moving to a new city I wanted to make a point to meet as many new people as I could. You never know where you’ll meet your new friend, a potentially harmonic business relationship, or even a new love.
With the assistance of my mastermind group, we came up with a game (thanks Tim!) in which I would have a goal of meeting 5 new people per day and I would keep track of my progress throughout the week. Over the course of this past week I have met 32 new people! Yes I am 3 off my mark but pretty good for week 1.
This little fun game we created has forced me to be more friendly and more conversational. It posed a new dynamic to my life. I now put myself into more situations where I could meet more people and let me tell you, I have learned lots over the past week.
So why am I telling you this? Because we are social creatures and by meeting more people and adding quality conversations to your day, you will naturally feel more fulfilled and happy.
How The Game Works
So here is how it works. Set up a spreadsheet on Google Drive or a document on your phone. I use the Google Drive spreadsheet app on my iPhone because its super easy to pull up after I meet someone.
I then put myself in social situations throughout the day. The easiest place to start is in line at Starbucks in the morning. The funny thing is that people look grumpy and unapproachable in the morning but once you break through that exterior they are soft and inviting.
I just say “hello” and ask them about their day or their weekend. I may ask them about someone they have in their hand like their phone or what they bought at the grocery store or the kind of coffee they ordered.
Try to hold the conversation for a little while and when its over tell them “nice to meet you” and politely move on with your day. If you can feel the conversation building into more, perhaps suggest continuing it some time over coffee because you already know they love coffee.
Either way if you can get a smile out of them you have helped kick start their morning and you get to knock one person off your list. If you get names too, that is extra points!
Other great places to meet people are at the grocery store, in your office building, the coffee shop, at the mall, at sporting events, at the gym, at a bar, etc. Although I did list a bar, I would attempt to avoid situations with alcohol in the beginning.
Alcohol gives some people more courage and conversations may not be as real and true. Try sober in broad day light.
To put a little more pressure on yourself, put something of value to you at the end of the day. Say you love to have a glass of red wine at night. Well, now you don’t get that glass of red wine unless you meet 5 new people today! Try it!
This may seem very trivial and you may be thinking to yourself “why do I want to meet random people?” Here is why.
If you do some social research and watch people in line and watch them in social situations, most of them are on their phones texting or on social media. We have become more social with our technology than we have in personal interactions. (Sound like you? Try the information diet challenge.)
Its really a sad thought. The funny thing is when you attempt to break the ice while someone is on their phone, they will snap out of it and realize that an in person conversation is so refreshing and fulfilling. Its not a normal occurrence anymore but IT SHOULD BE!
So this little fun game not only gets you to flex your conversation muscles and potentially meet some special people but also could bring joy to the complete stranger you meet and snap them out of that bad habit of constantly looking at their phone.
When you play this game you will notice that you can be more present in situations. Heck even go as far as to leave your phone in the car or turn it off (oh my god the horror!!).
See how it feels to be kind and ask complete strangers how their day is. Get better at meeting people and conversing while brightening others day! You’ll smile more, I guarantee it.